I get emails from all-time hockey players (and parents) in sport psychology consultation, if during the games of the hockey bench. They are angry and hurt and usually know not what to do. The main question they ask: “I thought that my son has a very good game was played, why he offside?”

To all parents out there: If your son loses confidence in your abilities Hockey depends on what conclusions he draws now.

In the absence of concrete information could be concluded, “I am not good enough” or “I Suck”. Both are very, very bad. The first way is to keep faith both of you to understand exactly why not play the coach. Talk with the coach. Find out what led some technical comments about your son on his decision.

Here is exactly how:

1st The simplest way this conversation was to focus on the future. You do not want to be labeled a problem getting parents’ or your son will have to pay a price.

Instead of saying: “Why is my son not to play the chance?” Simply say: “He had the chance to play in this critical situation. What does it take to improve that guy be?” By focusing on the future, you get to open it. This is because you do not complain and criticize, as Everybody Hates.

You’re just a simple request for information from a perspective hockey coach. When the coach of the answers, give you the statement you are looking for.

Do not argue with him – that lead you nowhere. Instead, think, questions about the details.

Do not go away until you fully understand his reasoning.

Example: “I wanted to have a player who handles the puck very well.”

She: “OK. Could you tell me exactly what my son needs for better puck possession work? For example, it is dumping the puck out of the box without looking?

Leave the car only talk with other players. If he does, say, “Yes, this is Jim great in those situations. What does my son need to improve the defense capabilities of the match, Jim?”

2nd Apply what the coach said as a request, not criticism.

I know you’re angry. And just because you love your son and hate to see him hurt. Good.

In the mood you are, if you tried to coach his back hurt by the criticism. While this is, of course, the coach will now be angry and would blame your son. Not good. The point of the best hockey games, I’ll give you his comments on an application and say what the coach wants to see your son.

You agree not, and it can not be right – but like the guy who makes those decisions, unless you have to raise a moral objection, your son might as well be him, which he applied. In addition, the beauty is the anger that your son can use.

Rather than turn his anger inward and become depressed and passive, he should channel his anger into his room. He needs to go there, be aggressive and make his point on the ice. And his number is: “Coach, you’re wrong about me,” It’s called “Challenge / Response, and all buses, which he loves.

(Note: I speak of “good” corrosive, where you type in your pride and play better – and not the “evil”, if you have aggressive sanctions).

3rd Thank you for sharing trainer input. assure him that your son more than capable of such improvements is and you will appreciate his honesty.

When you do this, the establishment of an open mind coach for the future of your son is to hold. And he will appreciate the maturity showed.

4th Your Grace bring your son how to successfully get the political level and what he wants.

I promise, your son is his confidence back again – with the correct information and concentrate in practice. Not aware of what has happened nothing. You need to protect your confidence as an athlete, and that is what can the collection of this information for him.

Turn it there,
Lisa

While the psychology of sport it is important that the truth is that most athletes are their crippling mental strength. You are literally killing their own confidence and sport do not even know. Here’s why: because they use sports psychology is incomplete … and if you do not know the missing pieces, you will not constantly under pressure to win, no matter how hard you try.